Relation-ships

Relation-Ships!!!

Yes as its written Relation-ships. 

Most things need to be broken down to sections. 

Relation:

1. An existing connection; a significant association between or among things: the relation between cause and effect.

2. Sexual intercourse.

3. The mode or kind of connection between one person and another, between an individual and God, etc.

Ship:

1. A vessel, especially a large oceangoing one propelled be sails or engines.

2. A bark having more than three masts.

3. The crew and, sometimes, the passengers of the vessel: The captain gave the ship shore leave.

Now that we have defined the two key words of relationship we need to define what a relationship is. To most of us it is with a family member, friend, a pet or significant other.

Relationship:

1. A connection, association, or involvement.

2. Connection between persons by blood or marriage

3. An emotional or other connection between people: The relationship between teachers and student.

Relationships are often taken advantage of, we take them far too lightly. I have found out in my life that something this big should not be taken so lightly, its is a serious matter. A relationship can be good or bad, but most of the time we overlook the bad with our kind hearts, not wanting to turn it to anything worse. 

I have a a list of things i know go by which helps me build relationships.

1. Be truthful all the way!

Why would you start off a relationship with lies? Why lie be truthful. You then become a trustworthy person which will further help you in the end.

2. Ask questions.

By asking questions you will know if you want to build a relationship with this person. Think about it this way, 5 years down the line you find out these unimaginable things about a person or place and you know for a fact you do not want something like that in your life what are you going to do now  Most people i know that put 5 years of their life into something, have a very hard time getting out of the situation. It never hurts to ask questions, TRUST ME!

3. Stand up for what you believe in.

You have standards right? Well stick to them. No one will ever have patients for someone that keeps changing how they feel about something. They won't know where you are about a subject and they will find it very hard to talk to you about things that are going on, and you want to be the one that they can come to. Going back to the whole trust thing. DO NOT CHANGE, I repeat, DO NOT CHANGE. Stay true to yourself, it will make you life living hell at time but in the end people will know you are strong for that reason alone.

4. Make sure you want to build this relationship.

If from the beginning you know this relationship is not going to work DO NOT PROCEED!!!!!!!!!! You know this is not going to work then why keep it going? Yeah you will brush the things that bother you off, but eventually you will get real tired of it, and you will have enough and maybe react a way you do not want to and that shows you in a bad light that is not you. So cut it off from the beginning and you won't have to deal with the drama and the bad feelings.

Going back to the definitions we know that a relationship is a vessel with multiple people or things with a connection. You must choose wisely who you let on your vessel because you are now on a rocky journey with them and you might not be able to get off of it when you want or need to, and if you too it might tear you to pieces or even sink this ship you have built. And no one likes a sinking ship. So remember, You choose who you build a relationship with, so choose wisely.

Peace, Love and New Adventures to you all!