Can You Really Judge A Book By Its Cover???

Judging People!

Judgment:

1. an act or instance of judging.

2. the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion: a man of sound judgment.

3. the demonstration or exercise of such abillity of capacity: The major was decorated for the judgment he showed under fire.

When it comes down to it all we all have judge a person one time or another, do not act like you have never. There are those times where see someone that looks different than us or even talks different than use. I feel its just natural to judge someone that is not like you. With people today there are so many different ways to judge the people around us, but i find there are some big points that we judge on.

1. Beliefs 

2. The way they carry themselves

3. Who they hang around with

Beliefs:

1. something believed an opinion or conviction: a belief that the earth is flat.

2. confidence in the truth or existence of something not immediately susceptible to rigorous proof: a statement unworthy of belief.

3. confidence; faith; trust: a child's beliefs in his parents.

We all should know by now that we have no place to judge other people by there beliefs, but we still continue to do it. I myself am guilty for this too. We try not to at time but when your beliefs are so strong sometimes it takes over stronger than you could ever control. At times we lash out against others who have the opposite position than us, because or beliefs are so damn strong. Do we mean to do it? In a way we do because we are taught to speak out on what we believe and at times we may lash out. But what if we all believed in the same things? Life would be absolutely boring and we would all be living the same days over and over again. Thats what makes life such a brilliant thing. We are all individuals, there is no exact copy of us in this planet. Even identical twins are the same. So its ok to stick up for what you believe on, never let some one take that way from you. But never forget that you will be judged no matter what.

How do you carry yourself? And who are you hanging with?

The way you carry your self can a big impression on the way people judge you. That why i'm a true believer in carrying yourself in a way people can respect and want to emulate, so when they do carry that respect for you they can pass the correct way to carry themselves and others. Think of it this way. Would you want your children to hang around bad people that will lead them to a road of hard times and a life of troubles? I really hope not. So you have to set an example because going back to judgment your children are a reflection of you and if people see the way you hold yourself they ASSUME your children also are the same. In most cases there are different. So carry yourself the way you want you, your family and your life to be portrayed.

So all i'm really trying to say is......

We are all going to be judged no matter what. So you have to stand your guard at all time. Life will hit you with people that will judge you no matter who they are our how they fell. Just remember you have to stand up for you and your family. Who cares what other people think? Even if your wrong to others your right to youself. It dose not matter what they think you keep going down the path that you know is right for you. Even if you make mistake in other peoples eyes you are still correct. At every turn on your journey of life there will be judgement......... IGNORE it. We all know hatters gunna hate!!!!!!!

       Peace, Love and New Adventures to you all!

Relation-ships

Relation-Ships!!!

Yes as its written Relation-ships. 

Most things need to be broken down to sections. 

Relation:

1. An existing connection; a significant association between or among things: the relation between cause and effect.

2. Sexual intercourse.

3. The mode or kind of connection between one person and another, between an individual and God, etc.

Ship:

1. A vessel, especially a large oceangoing one propelled be sails or engines.

2. A bark having more than three masts.

3. The crew and, sometimes, the passengers of the vessel: The captain gave the ship shore leave.

Now that we have defined the two key words of relationship we need to define what a relationship is. To most of us it is with a family member, friend, a pet or significant other.

Relationship:

1. A connection, association, or involvement.

2. Connection between persons by blood or marriage

3. An emotional or other connection between people: The relationship between teachers and student.

Relationships are often taken advantage of, we take them far too lightly. I have found out in my life that something this big should not be taken so lightly, its is a serious matter. A relationship can be good or bad, but most of the time we overlook the bad with our kind hearts, not wanting to turn it to anything worse. 

I have a a list of things i know go by which helps me build relationships.

1. Be truthful all the way!

Why would you start off a relationship with lies? Why lie be truthful. You then become a trustworthy person which will further help you in the end.

2. Ask questions.

By asking questions you will know if you want to build a relationship with this person. Think about it this way, 5 years down the line you find out these unimaginable things about a person or place and you know for a fact you do not want something like that in your life what are you going to do now  Most people i know that put 5 years of their life into something, have a very hard time getting out of the situation. It never hurts to ask questions, TRUST ME!

3. Stand up for what you believe in.

You have standards right? Well stick to them. No one will ever have patients for someone that keeps changing how they feel about something. They won't know where you are about a subject and they will find it very hard to talk to you about things that are going on, and you want to be the one that they can come to. Going back to the whole trust thing. DO NOT CHANGE, I repeat, DO NOT CHANGE. Stay true to yourself, it will make you life living hell at time but in the end people will know you are strong for that reason alone.

4. Make sure you want to build this relationship.

If from the beginning you know this relationship is not going to work DO NOT PROCEED!!!!!!!!!! You know this is not going to work then why keep it going? Yeah you will brush the things that bother you off, but eventually you will get real tired of it, and you will have enough and maybe react a way you do not want to and that shows you in a bad light that is not you. So cut it off from the beginning and you won't have to deal with the drama and the bad feelings.

Going back to the definitions we know that a relationship is a vessel with multiple people or things with a connection. You must choose wisely who you let on your vessel because you are now on a rocky journey with them and you might not be able to get off of it when you want or need to, and if you too it might tear you to pieces or even sink this ship you have built. And no one likes a sinking ship. So remember, You choose who you build a relationship with, so choose wisely.

Peace, Love and New Adventures to you all!